Practicing the Golden Rule (2024)

As a kid, I struggled for many years with throat and tonsil infections. So, when a throat infection hit me as an adult, I took my customary path of trying home remedies first. I worked my way through various strategies-salt water gargles, mugs of tea with honey, cough drops, a variety of allergy pills, essential oils, nightly humidifiers, then moved on to steroids and antibiotics. Yet, a terrible wheezing sound continued to escape from my throat when I climbed multiple flights of stairs.

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During a medical checkup, I heard exactly what I suspected: my tonsils needed to be removed. Part of me was scared. As a pediatric nurse, I have seen postoperative bleeds and other complications in children. Everyone said the post-op pain of a tonsillectomy was much more dreadful for an adult. But another part of me was hopeful; a tonsillectomy would resolve my periodic pain and suffering.

Surgery day arrived, and I checked in to the outpatient center. I was humbled to be the one lying on the stretcher in the blue and white gown, watching the RN start the intravenous infusion. I realized that soon I would be unconscious and at the mercy of the surgeon and nurses. Anxiety kicked in. Would there be problems in the operating room? Would I need a blood transfusion? Would they have difficulties waking me up?

As I lay there, silently giving in to a state of panic, a Scripture verse popped into my head:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7, NIV)

These verses were the prescription I needed at the moment. Hoping to quell my growing anxiety, I prayed. "God would you please calm my fear? Please be with the surgeon and the nurses as they care for me while I'm unconscious."

Praying, I sought protection and peace for my spirit. Then, believing I'd be okay, I thanked God for the healing that was to come. Perhaps I also told myself to snap out it before the nurse had a chance to ask how I was feeling. She didn't ask if I was nervous. Knowing I was a nurse, she may have assumed I had it all together, or perhaps I looked fine so she believed no words of reassurance were necessary.

My experience as a patient got me thinking about how often I assume my patients are fine. Can you relate? Often, I overlook the spirit of the person in the bed. I see the broken or sick body and forget there is a tender soul that may be afraid or have questions. I assume that because the patient is not complaining, he or she is fine. However, here I was, a nurse with 10 years' hospital experience, and I was anxiety-ridden. That slice of time offered me a glimpse of what some of my patients must experience.

As nurses, and especially as Christian nurses, we need to care for the whole person, not just the physical body. Although a patient may appear okay, we need to ask-in a way that communicates openness to anxiety and fear-how the patient is really doing. We cannot assume he or she is at peace with the situation at hand.

If opportunity allows praying for a patient, the Philippians verses above are helpful to pray, aloud or silently, along with Romans 15:13, "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit" (NIV) and Isaiah 41:13, "For I am the LORD your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you" (NIV).

Our day-to-day routines as nurses at the hospital can be scary, significant, life-changing events for patients. We need to remember and implement the Golden Rule-treat each patient as we would like to be treated-by taking a moment to ask, "How are you feeling?" and then listen well.

Practicing the Golden Rule (2024)

FAQs

Practicing the Golden Rule? ›

The Golden Rule is the principle of treating others as one would want to be treated by them. It is sometimes called an ethics of reciprocity, meaning that you should reciprocate to others how you would like them to treat you (not necessarily how they actually treat you).

How can we practice the Golden Rule? ›

18 Practical Tips for Living the Golden Rule
  1. Practice empathy. Make it a habit to try to place yourself in the shoes of another person. ...
  2. Practice compassion. ...
  3. How would you want to be treated? ...
  4. Be friendly. ...
  5. Be helpful. ...
  6. Be courteous in traffic. ...
  7. Listen to others. ...
  8. Overcome prejudice.

What is the significance of practicing the Golden Rule? ›

Normally we interpret the golden rule as telling us how to act. But in practice its greater role may be psychological, alerting us to everyday self-absorption, and the failure to consider our impacts on others. The rule reminds us also that we are peers to others who deserve comparable consideration.

What are the challenges of practicing the Golden Rule? ›

The Narrow Path of Proximity and Empathy

I can remain rooted in my own perspectives and privileges untouched by the pain and experiences of another. The challenge of the Golden Rule is that I mistake “do not do unto others" for "do unto others”.

What is the Golden Rule approach? ›

The golden rule is a moral principle which denotes that you should treat others the way you want to be treated yourself. For example, the golden rule means that if you want people to treat you with respect, then you should treat them with respect too.

What are the 3 basic golden rules? ›

1) Debit what comes in - credit what goes out. 2) Credit the giver and Debit the Receiver. 3) Credit all income and debit all expenses.

What are the three golden rules of life? ›

Honor People. Be kind to others and yourself. Love yourself first.

What is the flaw in the Golden Rule? ›

The golden rule is fatally flawed because it requires no empathy whatsoever. Sociopaths and psychopaths can easily follow it. You only need to think about how you want to be treated, and then do the same. You don't need to consider someone else's perspective at all.

What is the major shortcoming of the Golden Rule? ›

Some philosophers have criticized the Golden Rule as being an insufficient moral precept. To apply the Golden Rule, one must assume that one's own desires are universal; if they are not, there is a risk of causing harm to others by going against their wishes in service of one's own.

What is the biggest weakness of the Golden Rule? ›

The Golden Rule offers no clear way to test the existence or extent of an absurdity. This seems to depend on the outcome of each individual case. Therefore, while the Golden Rule has the advantage of avoiding absurdities, it has the disadvantage that there is no test to determine what an absurdity is.

What is the Golden Rule behavior? ›

The Golden Rule guides people to choose for others what they would choose for themselves. The Golden Rule is often described as 'putting yourself in someone else's shoes', or 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'(Baumrin 2004).

What is the Golden Rule in real life? ›

It is sometimes called an ethics of reciprocity, meaning that you should reciprocate to others how you would like them to treat you (not necessarily how they actually treat you). Various expressions of this rule can be found in the tenets of most religions and creeds through the ages.

What is the key to the Golden Rule? ›

"The golden rule is steeped in empathy: the basic premise of do to the other as you want done to you or even what you hope for others is what you hope for yourself," says Ramani Durvasula, a professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles. "That actually means attending to other people."

How do we obey the Golden Rule? ›

My bottom line: Doing to others as you want them to do for you (Golden Rule) is possible when we pray with persistent expectation (Golden Prayer). The Golden Rule came from an emperor of Rome putting this verse on the wall of his palace in gold. We think of it as such a good rule that we call it golden. Both work.

What is the Golden Rule in everyday life? ›

The golden rule means to apply the logic of treating others the way we would like to be treated to every situation we face when interacting with others. We all desire to be treated with kindness and consideration for our own feelings and preferences.

How do you teach the Golden Rule? ›

The most effective "positive parenting" tool for teaching The Golden Rule, is "active listening." Your child must feel they are not only heard but their feelings are understood. You don't have to agree but you must validate their feelings with love and understanding.

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